When Angry...

When angry... especially at someone you know well eg your spouse, your child, your parent, do not just spout from your mouth that which is in your mind. That is usually the cause of most fights, reckless use of the tongue and not thinking before speaking.

Next time you are angry at someone, pause and reflect.

• Who is this person you are angry at?
• What are all the good qualities in that person?
• What are all the good things this person has done for you?
• Is it worth getting angry and ruining a perfectly good relationship, even for a minute?

Most of the time, there really is no need to continue the quarrel; it is just the nafs of a person that wants some self satisfaction. So sacrifice that and deprive the nafs. What is a moment's triumph is not worth giving up the peace from simply letting another person's mistake go.

Of course, if it is something contradicting shari'ah, then it is a Muslim's duty to correct the mistake. However even that can be done in a polite manner.

A few tips when angry

• Read Ta'aawuz (A'oozu Billahi Minash Shaytaanir Rajeem)
• Drink cold water
• If you are standing, sit
• If you are sitting, lie down
• If you are really that riled up, go into another room until you calm down.

May Allah Ta'aala allow us all to observe patience and keep our anger under control. Ameen.