Summary of Letter
Bismihi Ta’ala
Respected Mufti Saheb
Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu
My mother is always very angry
with me and bears enmity towards me. Therefore I have severed all ties
with her and my brothers. Please advise me what I should do.
Summary of Reply
Bismihi Ta’ala
Respected Brother
Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu
To respect and honour your
mother is of fundamental importance. To stop talking and severing ties
with her is a means of great deprivation. Likewise it is an extremely
detestable act to cut off ties with your brothers. In the Hadith it is
stated: “Join ties with the one that cuts ties off from you, forgive the
one that has oppressed you and extend good treatment to the one who has
illtreated you.” Never keep your focus towards the ill-conduct of
people and towards how they have hurt you. Instead focus towards what
your response should be (that you should respond with good character and
excellent conduct). You may have read the following saying of Sheikh
Saadi (Rahmatullahi Alayh):
“To return evil with evil is very easy.
If you are brave and courageous, then return the ill-treatment of others
with kindness.” (Tarbiyatut Taalibeen, pg. 208)
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