A little child was brought to my Sheikh, Hazrat Maulana Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (Daamat Barakaatuhum). When Hazrat offered this child a toffee, the child turned and looked at the father, questioningly. The father said : “Take it.” - so the child took the toffee.
To us this is common behaviour of children, well trained by their parents. But take heed of the lesson derived by Hazrat.
Hazrat then said : “What a beautiful lesson…. These children are trained by their parents not to accept gifts and sweets from strangers. This is exactly what a Believer should be doing. There are many black, white and brown ‘toffees’ (ghair mahareem) to be found on the streets. The nafs says : “Take a lustful glance.”
The one who has recognized Allah Ta’ala, the one who knows that he has to stand before Allah Ta’ala and render an account for the bounties of his sight, hearing, etc. will turn to his ‘Rabba’ (Allah Ta’ala) – “Must I accept this ‘toffee’ or not?”
The child will turn to ‘Abba’ but this person now turns to his ‘Rabba’ and asks : “What is Your instruction ?”, “Do I accept it or not ?”
The one who is an Aashiq of Allah will not fall for such temptations because he looks to the instructions of Allah, be it in trade, on the streets, at home, marriage, walima – in fact in every circumstance.”
His concern is : Is my Allah pleased with this or not ? If Allah is not pleased, then the whole world can express their pleasure and approval but it will accrue to nothing but misfortune and disaster, in this world and the next.
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